I’ve seen it a thousand times in my 30 years of training: a well-meaning owner inadvertently creating a dog that can’t handle being alone. They think they’re comforting their new puppy by keeping the crate right by their bed, or in the busiest part of the house. But what they’re really teaching the dog is that it should be the center of attention, 24/7. When that’s suddenly not the case, panic sets in. That’s the root of so much separation anxiety.
Clarity is kindness. We have to be clear with our dogs about what we expect. And that includes expecting them to be calm and confident on their own. The crate is a fantastic tool for this, but only if you use it correctly. Where you put that crate from day one can make all the difference.
My approach is simple: structure first, freedom later. Start with the crate in a quiet, low-traffic area of your home. Not in your bedroom, and not in the middle of the living room. This teaches the puppy to be independent and that being alone is safe and normal. It’s about setting the puppy up for success, not failure. You’re not isolating them; you’re giving them the gift of self-reliance.
Don't teach your puppy that a crazy fit is the best way to get freedom. If the crate is in a quiet spot, you’re less likely to reward barking or whining with attention. You’re teaching them to turn on *and* turn off. A calm dog is a happy dog. Remember, faster is usually not better. It takes time and consistency. But by being clear and fair, you’re building a foundation of trust that will last a lifetime. It's never too late to make a change, but starting right is a whole lot easier.
